Asking Before You Step In

Most caregivers want to help quickly. It is natural to see a task and jump in. But guessing what someone needs can miss the mark.

Asking works better. Try a question like "How can I help?" Or try "Would it help if I picked up the groceries this week?" Their answer shows what matters to them.

People want different kinds of help, even with the same diabetes. Some want a reminder when it is time for a check. Some want you to step back and let them handle routines alone.

Others want a snack close by when they are out. You cannot tell which one by looking, so ask.

Sometimes the answer will be no. Respect it. Saying no is part of running their own life, and it matters to them.

Needs can change with health and mood, so check in again from time to time. If you notice a sudden change in health or mood, tell their doctor.

Key takeaways

• A simple question shows which help your loved one wants.
• People need different kinds of help, so ask which kind fits.
• Respect a no, and check in again as their needs shift.

Try it

Ask your loved one one simple question about the help they would welcome this week, then listen fully.